Fighting for love in a porn culture

Updated: Aug 14, 2019




If you’ve seen any trending news topics within the past week, I would be shocked if you didn’t see articles relating to a well-known business executive, celebrity, or even local citizen being accused of sexual abuse or a sexual scandal. The fact that I could even write that previous sentence is saying something about society. Sadly, it’s not surprising. But why?


The Facts

As technology has made the internet more accessible around the world, the number of pornography viewers has increased as well. How does this relate to what I mentioned above? A study from the American College of Pediatricians noticed the following among young adults exposed to pornography compared to the control group of “non-viewers”:

  • Male subjects demonstrated increased callousness toward women.

  • Subjects considered the crime of rape less serious.

  • Subjects became more interested in… extreme and deviant forms of pornography.

  • Subjects were more likely to say they were dissatisfied with their sexual partner.

  • Subjects were more accepting of sexual infidelity in a relationship.

  • Subjects valued marriage less and were twice as likely to believe marriage may become obsolete.

  • Subjects showed a greater acceptance of female promiscuity.

How To Prevent

So, what do we do? I believe fixing this part of society begins in the home while children are as young as 3 years old. (Learn more about how to talk to young children about porn here) Teaching our children what to do when they encounter porn while they are young is necessary for two reasons. The first is because 1 in 10 kids under 10 has seen porn. Exposure is happening at a younger and younger age which means the likelihood for addiction increases. Second, the sooner we teach our kids how to respond to pornography, the better the chances are that they will avoid it’s negative side effects and the more likely our kids will come to us about sensitive topics.


Now to be clear, my main goal isn’t to keep our children from becoming porn addicts and falling victim to its negative side effects (though a positive outcome). My vision is to have our children grow up to experience a real, loving, and healthy relationship with another human being. Pornography shows that love is only about you and your wants and that it’s OK to be violent towards your partner. Both of which, as we know, may push people towards sexual abuse, breakups, and/or divorce.


Love is what keeps us, humans, together. Pornography kills that love. Teaching our children what love really is, while also making them immune to pornography, will show them the power and beauty of a healthy relationship. It is my opinion that it is better to have parents teach their children about love than let the internet do that for you… We will have a brighter future if we make our children stronger and immune to the evils of a porn culture.


Although I don’t ultimately have control over my son’s decisions, I do have control over what I teach and when I teach it. The sooner I show my son the power of real love over fake love, the better the chances my son has at not becoming another statistic or news headline 20 years down the road.


How To Recover

Everything up to this point that I’ve shared is helpful for preventing the use of pornography. But, w